Much of our trauma and stress arises in relationships. Trauma and stress resulting from relationships are a byproduct of not having power in a relationship – someone else has “power over” us.
When we have unresolved animosity toward our body from trauma or cultural messages, it’s not surprising that we have trouble doing things like going to the gym or resisting that bucket of ice cream.
In Somatic Self-Compassion Online this week we’re exploring Staci K. Haines’ quote, “In listening to the body we know what we must care about. Core values come from felt senses, not from thought schema.” I’m fascinated by Staci’s quote, and feel a deep, yet unclear connection to her words.
Our cultural conditioning has generally encouraged us to cease listening to the wisdom of our body, and as a result we are cut off from a vast source of wisdom that is literally with us all the time. Why don’t we tune into the wisdom of our body? Here’s my exploration:
Practicing self-compassion is an important part of the equation to help us navigate through mindfulness toward equanimity.
To titrate our experience is to intentionally keep ourselves in a state of safeness, in our window of tolerance, through opening and closing our exposure to stimulation.
To my dear body in pain
I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time right now. I admit I find it hard to stay connected with you right now, but I care for you deeply so I’m really going to bring my self-compassion practice in to be with you, to keep you company, to let you know that I see and hear you, and to see what we might do together.
Even though my body hurt from unsuccessful attempts to find sleeping postures that nurtured my internal organs and my limbs, I searched inside her for support. Could I lean on her at this time? I longed for a feeling of safety, of uncomplicatedness, of refuge.
Moving and stretching your body in an intuitive way to music can be an awesome way to offer yourself compassion and tend to your mental, emotional and physical needs.
Loving, Connected Presence (LCP) is a pedagogical tool used by embodied teachers of contemplative programs. LCP recruits psychosocial tools for connecting in a way that enhances learning and a sense of belonging in a teaching environment.
Shame, self-criticism, perfectionism and lack of boundaries: these are some of the main themes when I’m talking to women.
The purpose of self-inquiry is to strengthen the resources of mindfulness and self-compassion through cultivating relationship with our self in each moment.