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To My Body in Pain…

May 23, 2018 by Kristy Arbon

Photo by Maaike Nienhuis on Unsplash

To my dear body in pain

I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time right now. I admit I find it hard to stay connected with you right now, but I care for you deeply so I’m really going to bring my self-compassion practice in to be with you, to keep you company, to let you know that I see and hear you, and to see what we might do together.

The first thing I notice is that there seems to be so much going on. Sensations, thoughts and emotions are swirling. I feel overwhelmed, and so I move toward my practice. I bring my attention to just one part of you at a time – ah, irritation and burning there; ah, tightness and tension there; ah, dryness and pressure there. These are the individual sites of pain. When I bring my awareness to them one at a time in a slow process of exploration of my body, I am able to ground my awareness in each experience. The swirling ceases and I start to feel a sense of the energy starting to come down. It all seems less overwhelming. I feel smaller, more contained, more finite. This pain is not everywhere and forever – it is in specific places just for now. There is comfort in recognizing this.

Even though it feels alien to bring affection and tenderness to you right now, this vessel that is making me hurt, this is where my practice moves me next. I see myself, in my mind’s eye, holding you, dear body, as a child, caring for it, loving it, seeing it, acknowledging it. I feel a hint of sadness as I feel the contrast between wanting to abandon you and starting to bring affection to you. You, dear body, have wanted to come home to affection the whole time – coming home is touching, a relief, as if there are tears of release because the resistance is over and there’s nothing left but homecoming and rest. I take a deep breath and know that I am taking a deep breath.

I feel that you, my dear body in pain, long to be touched, so I start to offer some massage. I bring curious awareness and touch to my hand, my wrist, my lower arm, my elbow, my upper arm. I wring my hands together gently and slowly, savoring the experience. I run my fingers over my scalp and savor that experience. I gently massage my cheeks with my fingertips and savor that experience. I offer the tenderness of a mother to a child; of my own caring instinct to you, my own body in pain.

I let you know that I don’t expect any more of you for the rest of the evening, and that I want to give you what you need. I ask you, “What do you need right now?” A hot shower comes to mind; as do soft, cozy sheets and permission to rest. I feel your relief at being offered rest, and my mind feels the relief as well. It’s hard work resisting pain – rest, warmth and comfort sound really nice right now.

I ask you, “What else do you need?” and you ask me to not abandon you again. I offer to do my best. Somatic Self-Compassion is my intention, and I plan to practice at every opportunity, but as always, the hardest bit is remembering. I will do my best to remember to open the door and practice being kind to you, my body. I will do my best to remember to come home to you again and again until one day, I will be eternally at home.

I hear you say thank you, and I say thank you back. We’re a good team, and we’re going to get even better. I need a home and you tell me that you need a householder. We can be those things for each other. And we’re going to love it.

With much gratitude for all you do and all you try to do,

Kristy.

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About Kristy Arbon

Founder of HeartWorks, creatrix of Somatic Self-Compassion and developer of Live Online Mindful Self-Compassion for the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, Kristy Arbon is an Australian living and loving in the US. After discovering the deep healing power of emergent self-wisdom and self-compassion in her own life, Kristy felt called to share these practices and trainings with others. She's since made it her life's work. "I teach so that I can learn, and I learn so that I can teach.”

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  1. Despina says

    May 23, 2018 at 12:32 pm

    Dear Kristy, this post came at the right time for me….Just as I was felt my irritation and upset levels rise because of the persisting headache, I began reading your post and as I read each line I began connecting to my felt experience and slowly I felt compassion rise in me for my body…I began relating to it in a loving way and soon began feeling the release of built up tension and the relief accompanying it…. this was most welcome and most unexpected I confess… I am most grateful to this synchronicity brought to me by you…and I am eagerly looking forward to starting the SSC course the coming Monday 🙂

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    • Kristy Arbon says

      May 23, 2018 at 1:04 pm

      Hello dear Despina. I’m so glad that this piece came to you at the right time. Thanks so much for telling me about your experience. I’m very much looking forward to Somatic Self-Compassion adventures with you!

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  2. Kristen Fischer Harper says

    May 23, 2018 at 12:50 pm

    So eloquently put. Those are the words I have needed to hear but never could verbalize or envision. Thank you for helping me come home today.

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    • Kristy Arbon says

      May 23, 2018 at 1:05 pm

      You are very welcome, dear Kristen. I’m glad the words gave you words to use. So glad we are in community together, my friend.

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